People have to face regrets. I guess becoming mature means you have to learn how to accept what you can’t change, facing unresolved sorrows & learning to love life as it really happens… Not as you would have it happen. When someone attaches unkindness to criticism, he/she’s angry… & angry people need to criticize as an outlet for their anger. That’s why regardless of what anyone says, you must reject any unkind criticism for it is never part of a meaningful critique of you. Its purpose is not to teach or to help, its purpose is to punish. Life isn’t supposed to be an all or nothing battle between misery & bliss. Life isn’t supposed to be a battle at all. && when it comes to happiness, well sometimes life is just okay… Sometimes it’s comfortable, sometimes wonderful, sometimes boring, sometimes unpleasant. When your day’s not perfect, it’s not a failure or a terrible loss. It’s just another day.
We miss out on so many beautiful things simply because we allow ourselves to be enslaved by our own selfish concerns.
Go for the man of deeds and not for the man of words, for you will find rewarding happiness, not with the man you love but the man who loves you more. The best lovers are those capable of loving from a distance, far enough to allow the person to grow, but never too far to feel the love deep within your being.
To let go of someone doesn’t mean you have to stop loving, it only means that you allow that person to find his own happiness without expecting him to come back. Letting go is not just setting the other person free, but it is also setting yourself free from all bitterness, hatred, and anger that you keep in your heart.
Do not let the bitterness take away your strength and weaken your faith, and never allow pain to dishearten you, but rather let yourself grow with wisdom in bearing it. You may find peace in just loving someone from a distance not expecting anything in return. But be careful, for this can sustain life but can never give enough room for us to grow.
We can all survive with just beautiful memories of the past but real peace and happiness come only with open acceptance of what reality is today.
There comes a time in our lives when we chance upon someone so nice and beautiful and we just find ourselves getting so intensely attracted to that person. This feeling soon becomes a part of our everyday lives and eventually consumes our thoughts and actions. The sad part of it is when we begin to realize that this person feels nothing more for us than just a friendship. We start our desperate attempt to get noticed and be closer but in the end our efforts are still unrewarded and we end up being sorry for ourselves.
You don’t have to forget someone you love. What you need to learn is how to accept the verdict of reality without being bitter or sorry for yourself. Believe me, you would be better off giving that dedication and love to someone more deserving.
Don’t let your heart run your life, be sensible and let your mind speak for itself. Listen not only to your feelings but to reason as well. Always remember that if you lose someone today, it means that someone better is coming tomorrow. If you lose love that doesn’t mean that you failed in love. Cry if you have to, but make it sure that the tears wash away the hurt and the bitterness that the past has left with you.
Let go of yesterday and love will find its way back to you. And when it does, pray that it may be the love that will stay and last a lifetime. There are two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle. Make it happen.
your dress from semiformal is cute! where’d you get it? (=
Thank you! It’s a Betsey Johnson dress (:
Love your dress! Who designed it for you? Glad you had a blast! (I still never had a date dressing up before :(.. someday someday)
Thank you! (: I didn’t design it, but my boyfriend got it for me if it’s any consolation. It’s by Betsey Johnson & don’t worry… it took me 22+ years to have a date of my own for a dance & it was definitely worth the wait!
hey. just wondering. did you take BSCI201 with Obrien? i’m scheduled to take her during BSCI202, how were her tests, quizzes, labs and did she curve? haha basically, was her course hard?
O’Brien’s a pretty cool professor. She’s really enthusiastic about what she teaches and she has powerpoints to everything. I heard Opoku’s lecture exams were easier than hers though, but I can’t really say too much. I do well on her exams & she doesn’t curve.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and a half. Everything was so good from way before we started dating but somehow, now it’s as if he doesn’t have time at all. I’ve been really understand at how school comes first but he keeps giving me excuses on how he doesn’t have time at all, for me. Yet he comes home and tells me about how he ate out for lunch with his friends at school and played ball. He keeps saying I miss you and all that junk. Then why doesn’t he show me? He’s all talk! Why is that?
Hmm, that’s definitely something to be concerned about. It seems as if you guys talk, but aren’t very communicative. And by that, I mean trying to understand each other. He should know what bothers you and why it does and how you feel about it and if he can’t find some way to compromise with your feelings, then you should take into consideration how good your relationship is with him and what needs to be done for your own sake.
What do you do when someone tells you that they like you? I mean, how are you supposed to respond to that? :/ Especially since this person isn’t what you had in mind. Or not the one that you’re interested in the first place..
I don’t know what to do that would seem appropriate and “professional” (lack of better words) to let this person know that I’m not interested in them that way.. And so on. Also, I don’t want to be “that” kind of person. The stereotypical one we all watch on TV..
Okay, thanks for your time! Take care & Keep the posts coming! Haha. :)
Of course I remember you! Sorry I’ve been a tad busy and haven’t kept up with everyone and my formspring. If someone were to tell me they liked me… I’d just be really honest with him and let him know how thankful I am to have him in my life, but can’t see anything past that and how it would be unfair if I allowed him to pursue me while I had no feelings. Something along those lines. It’s best to be honest rather than give him false hope. You shouldn’t be concerned about what people will think of you as long as you’re being honest with others and yourself.
this is a rather stupid question, but I just want your opinion on it: do you believe in “waiting for your turn”? if no, are there exceptions?
I’m not quite sure what you’re trying to ask. I think there are such things as waiting for the perfect time to be with someone, but I don’t necessarily think I’d “wait in line” for someone (whatever that means). All I know is I’d never want to be considered an option for anyone.
how do you get over somebody who doesnt even know they hurt you cuz it APPEARS they’re madly in love with somebody else? how would you do it?
I think for me, I’d kind of just go about living my own life and begin focusing on things that I need to do for myself like finish school, get good grades, try new things, hang out with friends, talk to friends I’ve lost touch with, basically becoming a better person and realizing that I can do that without the other person in my life. It’s easier said than done though, but time and patience come into play as well.
Timi! Got any suggestions on a new haircut/hairstyle? Just want something new for the holidays. Something sexy but down to earth :) Thanks girl, hope you’re staying warm on the eastcoast!
I was actually debating on cutting my hair short too, but I’m so indecisive! I even considered getting a perm just for the fun of it, but I like feeling natural. So as of right now, I guess I’m going to grow my hair out as long as possible until I get too impatient with it. As far as haircuts are concerned, I like layers and choppy cuts and cute side swept bangs that look good with winter hats haha. The simpler, the better though. && it’s freezing here on the east coast!
dear timi. I’m confused and hurting alot. I think it’s cuz I have the worst luck with boys. I thought me and this really good friend of mine had something good going on cuz we grew from strong friends, into lovers. or at least I thought.. he stopped talking to me and I later found out he was flirting and talking doggy about all these girls. we were never together but I thought we were working towards it. then I later found out he got a gf. I think I’ve managed to move on since I tried dating again with this guy I met, but when we were “gettin to know each other” he got a girlfriend.. idk what to do or think, it’s stupid but I can’t help to think there’s something wrong with me..
Don’t blame yourself… Honestly, I used to feel like something was wrong with me each time I had a failed attempt at a possible relationship. However, I will honestly say that a lot of guys can be jerks, heartless, selfish, and thoughtless… & I know many guys who can vouch for me on that one. Guys like that aren’t even worth your time and sometimes you just gotta pick through some bad ones to get a good one. Just whatever you do, never blame yourself for anything that didn’t work out when you gave it all you got. A good guy will like you for you & you should be confident with yourself. (:
Hey I’m a highschool senior living in Jersey. Just discovered that you go to University of Maryland. How is it there? Do you like it? What are you majoring in? I was thinking of applying. Sorry for all the questions! :]
I actually love going to the school that I do. The school has a lot to offer with tons and tons of things to do and I’ve come across really great people. I’m majoring in Kinesiology and you should definitely consider applying.
You always post the cutest pictures, the wisest quotes… Where do you find all of this good stuff?! Also, what are your favorite web sites to follow, blogs to read, etc?
Thank you (: A lot of the stuff that I post, I write on my own unless I’ve cited otherwise. However, most of my pictures aren’t. The quotes that I post are quotes that I’ve read from books, heard from movies, heard from someone else, or saw while reading an article and the pictures that I find, I get from e-mails, other people showing me, browing websites, and ones that I’ve saved from my older computer. My favorite websites consist of ESPN, Geekologie, Geekystuff, Yahoo, 1000 Favorite Things, whatever’s clever.
Sorry again for such late responses. The end of the semester has been crazy for me. But I’m nonetheless still very thankful for all of your questions and input. <3
“Whatever we focus on is bound to expand. Where we see the negative, we call forth more negative. And where we see the positive, we call forth more positive. Having loved and lost, I now love more passionately. Having won and lost, I now win more soberly. Having tasted the bitter, I now savor the sweet.” (via Marianne Williamson)
… And let me tell you, there is not a day that I don’t give thanks for every experience that has led me to the sweeter things in life.
People will love you and people will hate you. They will pretend to understand you and pretend to give a damn. Sometimes, it will be genuine and sometimes it won’t. People will hurt you and knock you down. People are like that. But the sun still rises and the world still turns. The only thing that you can do is make the most out of the time that you have, instead of wasting it on other people’s perceptions of you. Give all that you can give and love the life you are in. If you can be happy with yourself, nothing else will matter.