Lose Some, Win More.
Losing a friend is quite difficult, to say the least. You lose the bond, the secrets, the stories, and the togetherness. One thing you’ll never forget is the memories or the times shared together.
Losing a friend is one thing, but losing a friend who was detrimental to your well being is another. You still lose all of the qualities of a friend, but you gain a few more things. Peace of mind, for one, that you will never have to worry about so-and-so doing this to make your life harder, or so-and-so saying this to mess up your other relationships. You become more of a calm person, which yields lower stress levels (this is a bonus, I would say). You smile more. You begin to listen to other people. You enjoy yourself, because you finally realize that certain people just don’t belong in your life after all. No matter how hard you may have tried to deny it, you’re a better person because of the decision you made for yourself.
Life will continue to go on, and you will too, because this person means nothing to you any longer. You are you, and they are whoever they want to be. Live your life to the fullest, if not for yourself, but to spite them.
LOL…it’s not like that…yet?a poorer man’s prenup
LOL! Now that’s what I call a good boyfriend. Haha, J/K!
Realization.
This is from my heart: I realize now, that these are the years I’m going to have to work harder than ever. These are the years that I am in the process of growing up. I’ve done one thing that I’m extremely proud of. I finally let go of the one person I truly cared for and admired. Clearly I understand why first loves are your first; It’s because they’re not your last. It’s incredible after all these years, we can go about never talking to each other again, but understanding that the both of us have taken part in who we are today. And then I start to believe that life is real, it’s grand, it’s fucking wonderful. It’s full of potential and opportunity and making something of yourself.
After subjecting myself to the end of something that overcame me for a couple of years, I found myself rekindling friendships, losing a few, and creating new ones. Moreover, I found myself in a friendship with someone I could have possibly never been this close to. Soon after, I began to conclude my thoughts: All those dead end nights were worth it; to finally have someone extraordinary saying he can be half of that with me… and that’s what’s extraordinary to me. Now that’s something. I’m not perfect and neither is he. Neither is our relationship, but we’re learning and growing from each other day in & night out. We’re doing everything that we can to make it work. Because it’s our choice. We have chosen to make the effort, to consistently have good communication with one another. It’s our choice to keep this relationship alive or to break it. And now… he is a part of who I am. He is a part of me.
I’ve realized, you can’t keep living up to everyone else’s expectations, because in the end, it’s all about you, and not about proving theories or explaining prejudices. Ignorance is everywhere; but as long as you have a full heart, an open mind and a kick ass optimist mentality, I believe there is nothing worth explaining to someone who doesn’t have the mental capacity of a peanut. I wouldn’t want to know what it would be like trying to forget my past while hanging onto extra baggage. It’s just useless, and I would be carrying dead weight all my life. I have a big future and although my potential is only a paragraph long, my opportunities are endless, my soul lives on, my heart still beats, my drive isn’t automatic, my being has purpose and I will rise above it all. We will rise above it all.
“ There’s gonna be some stuff you’re gonna see that’s gonna make it hard to smile in the future, but through whatever you see, through all the rain, & all the pain… you gotta keep your sense of humor. You gotta be able to smile through all this bullshit.
Just Now... Then Later.
You are the thought going through your mind right now. You are the place where you stand in this moment. You are the song that you sing under your breath as your eyes scan these words. You are what you want in this single second. You are everything about this moment; nothing more & nothing less. The past is gone forever, & nothing can bring it back. You are not your past, whether it be five seconds ago, five months ago, or five years ago. The future is just out of reach, & it will remain so until the day you die. You are not what has yet to occur, & you are not what could happen. You are, quite simply, whoever or whatever you happen to be in this one moment in time. It could all change the minute you blink, but regardless, it is who you are right now. Nothing else matters, & nothing else ever will.
Decide who you’d like to be for now and don’t worry about anything else. Leave the past where it lies and let the future work itself out. For the present, you are exactly who you were meant to be.
… Trust me, I’m working on it.
A friend of mine is quite the amazing artist & I recently discovered a couple of different ways that this drawing of his could be interpreted. I wanted to share because I think that everyone could take some form of optimism from it. Thanks for the reminder.
check him out @ his blogspot: RichTu
“ After a while, you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand & changing a soul. You begin to learn that kisses aren’t contracts & presents aren’t promises. & you start to accept your defeats with your head up & your eyes open. You learn to build all your roads on today because tomorrow’s ground is too uncertain. After a while, you learn that even sunshine burns if you get too much. So plant your own garden & decorate your own soul instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers. You learn that you really can endure, that you really are strong, & that you really do have worth. You learn that with every goodbye, there’s a hello. Take chances. Tell the truth. Date someone totally wrong for you. Say no. Say Yes. Spend all your cash. Fall in love. Be random. Say I love you. Cry. Apologize. Tell someone how much they mean to you. Sing out loud. Tell them how you feel. Let someone know what they’re missing. Laugh until your stomach hurts. Take a deep breath & live life the best way you know how.
Such Great Heights
You’re never going to be perfect in every single aspect of your relationship with your significant other…but fuck it. Don’t dwell on what you can’t do for your boyfriend/girlfriend, but what you can do. You may not have all the money in the world, so make her a cake. You may not be able to play a song for them on your guitar, so make her a mix cd of songs that remind you of her. You may not be the most romantic guy in the world, so do research and ask all of her girl friends something that she’d appreciate. You may not be the funniest guy in the world and have the hardest time making her laugh….just don’t make her cry. Give her all that you can, and at the end of the day when there’s nothing else left to give, give her your time.
Something I needed to read.
